Making friends in college is one of the easiest and the hardest things to do.
It is easy because you are instantly friends with people when you walk in the door - your roommates! But it is also hard because you make so many new friends that you can't remember every ones names so you feel like a jerk when they remember yours but you have no idea who they are.
Here are my tips to making friends in college.
Actually socialize.
It is awkward for everyone when you just stand there looking like a deer in the headlights when someone says "Hi". Plus, you get to know people better when you have a two person conversation - imagine that!
Put yourself out there.
You never know who you will meet when you just go out and do things! There are tons of fun activities and interactive things to do on campus so you never have a reason not to.
If you forget their names, go with something generic.
When in doubt, always go with buddy, girl, pal, or just plain friend. This still acknowledges that you remember them without having to say their name that you don't know!
Making friends may be difficult at times, especially if you are shy, but it is the easiest way and best way to fall in love with your school more and more each day. Treasure the friends you have, but always be willing to make more.
I completely understand how hard it is to remember names! I just recently joined a sorority, and I feel so bad when I forget someones name!!
ReplyDeleteI agree that it is important to put yourself out there in the beginning. It establishes those connections and makes making friends much easier!
ReplyDeleteOK, if you forget someone's name, do not go generic. Confess. Quickly. Say something like, "oh, gee, your name just fell right out of my head. I'm sorry." Then smile and repeat their name about three times out loud. And confirm the spelling if it makes sense to do so. Kayley, eh? how do you spell that? It's a method I use ALL the time. And it works. :)
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